Well done, sister! Well done

I am so proud of Amy. I had to write this for a May 31 time stamp. I'll update it this weekend. (I didn't update it. Sigh.)

Grateful for the pause

When my world starts to spin out of control, logic tells me I need to multitask. I need to do more to keep up.

Recently, spiritual practices have been giving a different answer. When things get crazy, it's more important than ever to pause, to pray, to focus on God. To be reminded that it's not my job to make sure everything turns out the way I or someone else thinks it should.

If the world is starting to go to fast, I can trust God to let me slow down. It's an act of faith,  demonstrating my belief that God, and not I, am in control.

My job is to do what I can, the best that I can. I can trust that if, in fact, I need to work harder and faster, God will give me the wisdom and energy to know what to do and get it done.

Even though I know these things, it's hard not to return to my default pattern of getting anxious and worrying and spinning my wheels in inefficient activity.

Old habits are hard to break. Last weekend, I committed to get to bed by 11 p.m. I said I would drop whatever I was doing by 10:30 or 10:45 at the latest to give my chance to have the light out by 11.

With my husband as an ally, I had pretty good success with this commitment from Saturday through Tuesday. I was feeling positive effects.

I'm not sure what all happened Thursday (other than the fact that my husband left for a multiday trip), but when I realized I wouldn't be finished with a task by 10:30, I kept working. Before I knew it, it was after 12:30 a.m., and I was still working on various aspects. I didn't turn off the light to go to sleep until about 1:30 a..m.

The unfortunate result was that, when I awoke this morning, my head was spinning more than ever. That's what got me back on the multitask track -- until I finally realized it was making things worse instead of better. The more I tried to do, the more I saw that I needed to do.

Finally, I hit the pause button. I stopped to pray, to focus on God, to reaffirm my faith. I wrote about what I had experienced. 

I also started making a list as things came to mind I thought I needed to get done. I could sort them by priorities and urgency.  The day started to look more manageable. I could thank God, and I did. 

More to come ....

Best intentions

I finally have ideas I'd like to write about, but where did the time go? I hope to soon get back to write about the thrill of knowing another generation of Mom's girls will be singing solos at church.

I could also write about how helpful it has been to have a few nights of getting to bed by 11 p.m. -- even though I'm missing that by more than an hour tonight.

I could write about weathering storm warnings, and trying to decide whether to wean off a medication, whether the risks outweigh the benefits.

Would I be fishing for compliments if I told how I hooked another one or three on Memorial Day -- and one person to whom I showed the picture thought it was from last year, an honest mistake since I had on similar if not the very same clothes!

Suffice it to say, despite my lack of fulfillment of my best intentions on blogging tonight, life is good and I am grateful!

Who's keeping score?

I think this is the longest I've ever gone without "checking in" on the blog, except perhaps a time or two I announced in advance that I would be taking a break.


This time, life interrupted. It wasn't more life than was happening while I was continuing to check in with a word or two. It was just enough to keep me distracted from thinking about blogging or not blogging.

As the month nears its conclusion, that scorekeeper in my brain has me aware that time is running out and I haven't made any points!! Ha!

And even though I'm typing now and will post this, I'm pretty sure the truth is I'm still not going to make a point. That will continue the streak that has been ongoing! (Where but here can I score without making a point??)

Maybe the point is that as hard as I try to not come back to this blog to post until I have something worthwhile to write, I can't resist for long. And that's OK, too.


I'll still be pleased if at some POINT, eventually, I manage to write something of significance.

Renewed hope

I really wanted to end April with a blog post. I am at a loss for words. 

Life is good. It’s ok that I’m tired. I’ve been on the go and even now am four hours from home, at the start of a week in the East Texas areas around Lake Fork. 

That’s just one day after I got home to Norman from a weekend in Dallas. 

Many opportunities came up in April. Some turned out better than others. And many won’t be completed until mid to late May. 

As a result of Easter and the Dallas event I attended, I have renewed hope for positive outcomes, as I take each day as it comes, praying to God for guidance and trusting Him to provide it. And letting God be God, meaning I will trust Him with results. 

And I will seek His forgiveness when I fall short through selfishness, greed, dishonesty or fear. I will seek to make amends as needed. 

I will seek to be kind, loving, helpful, gracious and grateful. And patient. 

These changes won’t occur overnight. Sometimes I wonder if they will ever become my normal. 

I don’t have to know. 

I’m just grateful to have renewed hope through growing faith and willingness to act and trust God with results. 

Hallelujah! It’s time for me to RISE

In recent years, a highlight of my Easter has been singing the Hallelujah Chorus with my church's choir at the end of the worship service. The words, the harmonies and the accompaniment lift my heart and spirit toward heaven.

I knew we would not be singing it this year, and I felt sad and disappointed.  It didn't help that the song we were singing instead ("I Will Rise") has a rhythm that is difficult for me. I found myself focusing so much on the rhythm and my disappointment that I couldn't even contemplate the words.

After choir practice Wednesday, I realized part of my problem was that I was letting my disappointment keep me from moving forward. In many areas of my life, I've seen how when I trust God with changes -- and when I trust God with my disappointments -- I can move forward and usually learn lessons and receive blessings. So that's what I prayed for willingness to do. Accept that this is what we would be singing and do my best to learn it.

As I began to practice by listening to and singing along with a recording of the anthem, I focused on the words and could see how God might use them to move me from basking in the Scriptural truths proclaimed in Hallelujah! (The kingdom of our Lord has begun and He shall reign forever) to responding! "Jesus has overcome, and the grave is overwhelmed ... I will rise, when He calls my name. No more sorrow, no more shame."

I will rise!

Because of Jesus' life on earth followed by His death and resurrection, I can rise above whatever is holding me back.

Not only do I have the promise of life after death, I can rise when He calls my name and be part of heaven on earth.

Adventures in being me

One of my key struggles in life involves overcoming selfishness, self-centeredness, fear of missing out/being left out and replacing that with trust in God -- trusting that, as I walk with God, what I have, do or am is enough.

I face the dilemma daily, throughout the day.

God's will versus my will.

Trying to control what I do so I can get what I think i want or need.

Sometimes it seems to work, perhaps just enough to keep me doing it.

More and more, I'm seeing that it doesn't work.

Most recently:

Palm Sunday morning, I was cranky and unfulfilled at church. The music and worship was not lifting my heart to God nor was it satisfying me. Everything seemed to be a struggle. I found myself being critical, having to bite my tongue again and again not to express aloud my frustration.

On the way to a weekly prayer meeting Monday morning, I did a quick check of Instagram and learned that while I was out of sorts Sunday morning at Goodrich, my favorite Christian recording artists had been featured for the full hour of worship across town at First Baptist Church.

I felt crushed, sad, disappointed, even resentful -- because I would have thought some people would have let me know. (This is the group with Norman ties that I've written lots of stories about, as recently as last summer. "I thought they were friends," I heard me telling myself. I feel a bit betrayed -- not unlike how I felt when the outdoor editor, a friend, let an awful headline run atop a story, with my byline, about the company for whom my husband works.)

I quickly turned on my phone's voice memo, to record my angst as I cried out to God for understanding, forgiveness and help.

"I guess it wasn't my assignment. So while I was being critical and unhappy and unfulfilled at Goodrich, Point of Grace was singing at First Baptist Church in Norman with orchestra, da da da da da. So God, I just want to trust you, that it wasn't my assignment. I need to trust You, with my fear of missing out. I'm OK. God, you are God. You are God. I want You to be Lord of my life. I trust You.

I'm meant for little things. Or things that look little to me.

Help me be OK with that.

Some things will never make sense, and that's OK.  It's actually better when they don't make sense, and I just trust -- trust, trust, trust You.

I kind of asked if they would be there, and I guess I could have done more. And I didn't. So I just have to trust that that wasn't my assignment. I wasn't meant to be there.

Oh Lord. (sigh)

Lord, help me know what you would have me do. And help me do it. To Your glory. Your glory, Lord.

Thank you. I love you. I trust you. I praise You. I seek You. Help me to obey You. In Christ's name I pray. Amen.

By Tuesday afternoon, I still hadn't let go. At a routine doctor's appointment, we talked some about my FOMO and how that has often fueled anxieties and attempts to control. And how my default response when things don't go my way is to get frustrated with myself, to turn criticism and blame on myself. "If only I were different .... better" .... these things would turn out how I want them to.

I've been praying about my selfishness, self-centeredness and fear. And here it was again, all wrapped up in this one example.

I was figuratively kicking myself for not checking the website or Facebook page of First Baptist Church, which quickly would have informed me Point of Grace was singing there for the whole service Palm Sunday. It would have been so easy. I may have even thought of it. So why didn't I check? Not long after that, I saw I had received a "bandsintown" email, that I had not bothered to open while we were in Washington, DC., that announced Point of Grace would be singing at the Norman church.

That's where the idea is strengthened that it wasn't my assignment. I've seen times when, out of the blue, the thought occurs to do something that normally would not have entered my mind or seemed possible, but turns out to be just the right thing. Singing with my mom and sister in the choir at their church in Gainesville at Christmas comes to mind. I give God the credit when those things happen. And in this year, this season, this month of my life, I can see how that is what happened here. I was supposed to be at Goodrich, not where Point of Grace was singing. God wanted me at Goodrich.

So if I want to be mad or frustrated at someone, maybe that should be directed to God. Of course, I'm not comfortable with that. I'm more comfortable with directing it at myself.

When I listened to my audio memo Tuesday, I could hear my voice cracking with emotion. I was clearly on the verge of tears. When I looked at the FBC Facebook page while writing and saw how actively they had promoted Point of Grace, at least among the church's members, the emotion welled back up.

How many times am I going to go through this?

Things that I have invested quite a bit of time and energy and passion into -- whether as a reporter, a friend, a supporter, a fan, a member -- bring disappointment, discouragement and confusion.

Here I am again, questioning what is important. What is my purpose? What matters?

When I sat down to write on Tuesday, the thought that had just crossed my mind was something like this: I have to let go. This struggle won't end until I let go.

It's not that God is mean or punishing me or testing me. It's just the way it is. (There's probably a better explanation, that shows how it's the way it is because of God's love, but I can't think of it right now, nor does it really matter whether I know the reason.)

Part of letting go is stepping out in faith to do those things that come to mind to help others. It's my thinking that ALWAYS gets in the way. I start thinking, wondering, worrying about how it will work out without me getting overwhelmed or tired or some other discomfort or messing up or missing out on something else.

That's why, when I read a selection in 12 Step recovery literature where the writer suggested, when faced with a problem, to "Think, Pray, Act," the realization that came to me was my thinking gets in the way. I'm better to Pray, Trust, Act, or possibly: Pray. Act. Trust.

Tuesday afternoon, I planned to visit some people in the hospital after my doctor's appointment. But when I started thinking, I couldn't figure out how to arrange it all. So I went home and ate lunch. And then I started writing. Those are both important things, and the day probably unfolded exactly as it should have. Time seems to be bearing that out.

As I read back through this, when I got to the part about maybe my anger or frustration should be directed at God, the word "Acceptance" came to mind.

Acknowledge my sadness and disappointment, even my confusion. Sit with the feelings a while. But not too long. Then let them go. Trust that God is in control and that God loves me and knows I love Him, and He is working to make whatever I do, no matter how lame it seems to me, better, as I seek to take one step after another in partnership with Him.

Accept that "nothing, absolutely happens in God's world by mistake." 

Acceptance is the key to my relationship with God today. (Starting with accepting that God is God and I am not, and nothing, absolutely nothing happens in God's world by mistake.)

... never just sit and do nothing while waiting for Him to tell me what to do.

... do whatever is in front of me to be done ... leave the results up to Him; however it turns out, that's God's will for me. (Italicized passages from the "Big Book" of Alcoholic Anonymous.)

Do I believe this? Here I go thinking again. Let me not overthink it. Yes, I believe this. I can say I believe this. 


That was Tuesday. Now it's Saturday night. The day between the sadness of Christ's Crucifixion remembered on Good Friday and the joy of Christ's resurrection celebrated on Easter Sunday. 


I am aware that I've spent more time reading, meditating on and even studying the Bible these 40 days (not counting Sundays) of Lent, leading up to Easter, than I have during any other time in my life. I can't say that I feel greater peace in my life. I do have a stronger hope that an important transformation can occur that will enable me to live my faith -- faith in the Resurrected Christ  -- in humble service to the glory of God.